Courtesy of Just For Kix “Coaches CD” ©2000
Compiled by Cindy Clough
When children dance, they have a “golden opportunity” to develop a positive self-image. But, this won’t happen if parents don’t do their part. Here are some ideas to help build your child’s self-esteem on and off the dance floor:
- Keep it positive. When you find something to criticize, find four other things to praise.
- Instill humor. Help kids laugh at their mistakes.
- Develop team spirit. Help your child think “we” not “me.”
- Step into your child’s shoes. See the sport through her eyes. Listen and understand her feelings and wants.
- Involve yourself. Volunteer. Ask your child questions. Help her practice at home.
- Notice any and all progress, in both skill and effort.
- Praise specifics. Don’t say: “Mary you are a good sport.” Say “I liked the way you greeted the other team after the competition.”
- Offer a good example. Be a good sport yourself.
- Remember to have fun. Fun, not winning, is what’s most important to children.
- Set reasonable expectations. Don’t under estimate what your child can do, or pressure her to do what she can’t.
- Adapted and reprinted from Parents Make The Difference.